Postpartum storm and your Elder kid attention

 

 Are you a tough mother having a newborn one side sucking you all time and a toddler dragging your legs the other side... 

Definitely we go through this and I am one mommy who is indeed struggling till today. "Every storm has to run out of rain". you all might have heard this song...oh yeah..yes the days are getting better day by day.deal it like you are the showstopper of your home and the result is nothing but unconditional love and respect from your kids and family.

I love to share my experience with you all that  please have a look at this blog all you second time mommies..

lways being the best  mother for my elder son we fail somewhere when we  see the two red lines in the kit being happy n proud that yeah the next kid may be a girl. Or see i am getting the second crazy version of me and my spouse.

We manage  the elder kid somehow till the  delivery date swallowing all our pregnancy sickness and showng more love  to them. still... there can be some things which might hurt them..

So here are some vocabularies you must learn to speak or even act when needed to make them smile..

Start by prioritising the first kid always as how did you treat him in your early motherhood. This might make you wonder that first kid is always the firstone.. but there can be situations that your baby might get jealous of the newborn and being sad when you kiss or cuddle the second one. kiss and cuddle your newbaby with the elder one. tell them the newborn is just like you . You did this too...you were this soft too. You cried this louder too and now we both have to lookafter this tiny one.

Just fold your anger as tight as you can and breath it into your ass.. its always quiet normal that we mothers get anger to a peak when the elder one acts weired or make mistakes.

Just let it go and see their happy faces when they are scared out of world and  that mommy did not yell at me.. you are really worth of seeing their qwirky face.

Be with them even if you are busy with the otherone. You can just have a cool statement like mommy is there to play with you just give me a minute," Let me change this naughtys stinky diaper" which can really make them calm. 

Laugh with them for no reason like how they do it to you.. you will be surprised ever that how happy they are to this act of yours.

Just keep your palm on your lip and do a winky face when they are annoying you.

Make use of most of your time with elder one than with the newborn. Manage your time to play or talk to them when the newborn is asleep. Let your kitchen be messy let the laundry pile inside your spin machine. Talk and play with them that let them know you are there for them everytime.

Show them your love with hugs and kisses and cuddles . It doesnt mean that a four year kid is not meant for cuddling..you will get a good acknowledgment than cuddling your newborns.

Accompany your elderone to play, give kisses and even while changing the diaper and bathing the newborn. This will make a good family bond too.

 Talk to your spouse to have a healthy envirownment by having shift duties in the kitchen and even cleaning laundry session. This is the most important one to enjoy motherhood truly and I love this criteria the most.

Dont expect for more time to relax just make use of your present time and be happy with what you have. After all motherhood is not easy. You will have to sacrifice your sleep, your coffee or even your bed space.

Stop worrying about what people are saying and how they do take your motherhood journey. No ine is gonna give you a best mommy certificate.Just enjoy the period by being with them the most of your time.

Children are a blessing and they, each one deserve our love without any boundaries.